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Perceraian – Bukan Sesuatu Yang Besar Lagi

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Pada tahun 2012, 56,750 perceraian telah direkodkan. Percaya atau tidak, ini bersamaan dengan 1 perceraian dalam 10 minit. Peningkatan bilangan perceraian di Malaysia lebih daripada dua kali ganda dalam tempoh lapan tahun, dari tahun 2004. Perangkaan yang disediakan oleh Jabatan Kehakiman Syariah Malaysia (JKSM) menunjukkan bahawa jumlah pasangan Islam bercerai meningkat sebanyak 2.3 kali daripada 20,916 pada tahun 2004 dan meningkat kepada 47,740 dalam tahun 2012. Manakala, perceraian pasangan bukan Islam meningkat 2.7 kali ganda daripada 3,291 kes perceraian pada tahun 2004 kepada 9,020 pada tahun 2012.

 

 

Wanita pada masa kini berpelajaran tinggi dan lebih bebas dari segi kewangan. Mereka menjadi lebih perkasa untuk menceraikan diri daripada hubungan yang tidak adil. Selain pengaruh media, mereka lebih mengetahui hak-hak mereka dan mempunyai pemahaman yang lebih baik tentang undang-undang. Oleh itu, mereka tidak berapa bertoleransi sebagaimana generasi terakhir.

Satu sebab biasa orang bercerai adalah kekurangan komunikasi. Komunikasi terbuka dan jujur diperlukan untuk membina kepercayaan dalam perhubungan. Perbualan dengan pasangan anda adalah penting. Saya percaya setiap pasangan mempunyai konflik dan perbezaan pendapat, jadi jika bercakap dan mendengar tidak diamalkan, semestinya hubungan ini tiada harapan lagi.

Sebab lain ialah perbezaan dalam keutamaan dan kepentingan. Anda mungkin berfikir bahawa mempunyai rumah adalah penting tetapi dia mungkin berfikir kereta adalah lebih penting daripada mempunyai sebuah rumah. Anda rasa anda berdua perlu berkongsi kerja-kerja rumah tetapi dia berfikir bahawa anda adalah orang yang perlu melakukan segala-galanya. Ramai pasangan yang gagal bersama kerana perbezaan utama dalam falsafah.

Apabila kanak-kanak dilahirkan dalam keluarga, banyak ibu bapa yang melupakan bahawa mereka adalah pasangan. Oleh itu, apabila masa berlalu, ramai pasangan mendapati bahawa hubungan mereka semakin renggang dan tidak lagi mempunyai apa-apa persamaan.

Baru-baru ini, ramai pasangan muda memilih untuk berkahwin lambat, yang sebenarnya adalah satu perkara yang baik. Menurut kaji selidik National Population and Family Development Board mengenai trend perkahwinan dari tahun 2000 – 2007, purata umur berkahwin rakyat Malaysia akan meningkat kepada 33 pada tahun 2015. Dalam kajian yang menunjukkan bahawa akan ada empat kali peningkatan risiko perceraian jika anda berkahwin di bawah umur 25. Oleh itu, berkahwin lambat dapat mengurangkan risiko perceraian.

Perkahwinan bukan perkara kecil. Jangan terburu-buru dengan perkahwinan hanya kerana pak cik dan mak cik anda mengatakan bahawa anda perlu berkahwin sebelum 30 tahun. Sebelum mengikat tali perkahwinan, ambillah masa yang lebih banyak untuk memikirkan apa yang anda mahu daripada perkahwinan.

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Divorce- Not A Big Deal Anymore?

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In 2012, 56,750 divorces were recorded. Believe it or not, this equals to 1 divorce in 10 minutes. The increase in the number of divorces in Malaysia has more than doubled within eight years, from 2004. Statistics provided by Syariah Judiciary Department Malaysia (JKSM) shows that the number of Muslim couples getting divorced increased by 2.3 times from 20,916 in 2004 to 47,740 in 2012. Whereas, break down of non-muslim couples increased by 2.7 times from 3,291 divorces in 2004 to 9,020 in 2012.

 

 

Women nowadays are well educated and are more financially independent, they became more empowered to divorce themselves from an unfair relationship. In addition to media influences, they are more aware of their rights and have a better understanding of the law, therefore they are not as tolerant as the last generation was.

A common reason people get divorced is the lack of communication. Open and honest communication is needed to build trust in relationships. Conversations with your spouse are essential, therefore expressing feelings and listening to your spouse is important. I believe every couple has conflicts and disagreements, so if talking and listening are not practiced regularly, there is no hope.

Another reason is the difference in priorities and interests. You think that having a house is essential but he might think that a car is more important than having a house. You think both of you should share the house chores but he thinks that you are the one who should do everything. Many do not survive this major difference in philosophy.

When a child is born in the family, a lot of the parents soon completely forget that they are a couple. Therefore as time passes, many couples find that they have grown apart and no longer have anything in common.

Recently, many young couples are choosing to get married pretty late, which is actually a good thing. According to a National Population and Family Development Board survey on trends from 2000 to 2007, the average marrying age of Malaysians will to increase to 33 in 2015. A research shows that there will be four times increased risk of divorce if you marry under the age of 25. Thus, getting married later could reduce the risk of getting divorce.

Marriage is not a small matter. Don’t ever rush into marriage just because your uncles and aunties say that you should be getting married by 30. Before tying the knot, take more time to figure out what you want from the marriage.

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Divorce- Not A Big Deal Anymore?

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In 2012, 56,750 divorces were recorded. Believe it or not, this equals to 1 divorce in 10 minutes. The increase in the number of divorces in Malaysia has more than doubled within eight years, from 2004. Statistics provided by Syariah Judiciary Department Malaysia (JKSM) shows that the number of Muslim couples getting divorced increased by 2.3 times from 20,916 in 2004 to 47,740 in 2012. Whereas, break down of non-muslim couples increased by 2.7 times from 3,291 divorces in 2004 to 9,020 in 2012.

 

 

Women nowadays are well educated and are more financially independent, they became more empowered to divorce themselves from an unfair relationship. In addition to media influences, they are more aware of their rights and have a better understanding of the law, therefore they are not as tolerant as the last generation was.

A common reason people get divorced is the lack of communication. Open and honest communication is needed to build trust in relationships. Conversations with your spouse are essential, therefore expressing feelings and listening to your spouse is important. I believe every couple has conflicts and disagreements, so if talking and listening are not practiced regularly, there is no hope.

Another reason is the difference in priorities and interests. You think that having a house is essential but he might think that a car is more important than having a house. You think both of you should share the house chores but he thinks that you are the one who should do everything. Many do not survive this major difference in philosophy.

When a child is born in the family, a lot of the parents soon completely forget that they are a couple. Therefore as time passes, many couples find that they have grown apart and no longer have anything in common.

Recently, many young couples are choosing to get married pretty late, which is actually a good thing. According to a National Population and Family Development Board survey on trends from 2000 to 2007, the average marrying age of Malaysians will to increase to 33 in 2015. A research shows that there will be four times increased risk of divorce if you marry under the age of 25. Thus, getting married later could reduce the risk of getting divorce.

Marriage is not a small matter. Don’t ever rush into marriage just because your uncles and aunties say that you should be getting married by 30. Before tying the knot, take more time to figure out what you want from the marriage.

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